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sparklefall ,

like the question…. “do I look fat in this ?”

EherVielleicht OP ,

Me: Does this tie make me look bald?
Her: You are bald.
Me: Exactly!

Frozengyro ,

Not in that

RudeOnTuesdays ,

This scenario usually works out for me. Turns out my wife’s friends’ significant others make me look great!

EherVielleicht OP ,

Even on Tuesday?

MissJinx ,
@MissJinx@lemmy.world avatar

because ppl that think like this are not in good relationships. Every person/relationship has it’s quirks but if you this talking about your relationship is a trap just leave, one of you is the problem.

tdawg ,

People really do this?

MindSkipperBro12 ,

I wouldn’t know, never had a girlfriend.

lightnsfw ,

Yeah, your GF is probably telling her friends all kinds of embarrassing shit about you.

tdawg ,

Sure whatever people talk. But doing it in front of your so is just kinda rude

lightnsfw ,

It’s a way of passive aggressively calling you out for shit and yea it’s rude as hell. I’d argue airing out dirty laundry to their friends at all is pretty rude regardless of if you’re present or not. I know I’ve had shit I’d rather people not know get out because of GFs gossiping with each other.

tdawg ,

Sounds like some college bs tbh

lightnsfw ,

It’s not. I was at a barbeque last weekend and all the wives were going off. If anything it’s worse in the 40+ crowd.

NielsBohron ,
@NielsBohron@lemmy.world avatar

It can be a passive-aggressive way to call you out, but not necessarily. If you and your SO have a healthy relationship, discussing problems in front of others shouldn’t necessarily be seen as an attack. In my experience, if a situation like this comes up, it’s usually either:

  1. A way to help a friend who that might not realize they’re in a toxic/abusive relationship. For example, “Sometimes, Niels is really impatient with me being late, but he doesn’t demean me or put me down” can be a way of inviting me to provide some context or show that I’m not perfect but also that there are hard lines that shouldn’t be crossed
  2. A way to empathize with a friend that is coming to grips with the fact that no relationship is perfect. It might not be a conscious invitation to participate, but it does potentially allow you to provide another way of thinking about the issue. For example, “Tell me about it; I’m always picking up after this guy” is not mean-spirited or passive aggressive, IMHO. If it seemed like they actually wanted me to participate rather than just have a way to vent, then depending on the friend I might jump in with “oh man, my ADHD has been really bad since the new project started at work! I’ve been a mess and it’s been really awesome that you’ve been able to help me out”

It’s still not an excuse for an SO oversharing something that you told them in confidence, and it’s not an excuse for turning an ongoing point of contention into a full-fledged argument in front of others, but it’s not necessarily cause for concern. If you’re a very private person, and you ask an SO to not discuss certain things with others, that’s a little different. But on the other hand, they do need to be able to discuss concerns with others to some extent, so maybe differentiating between “good friends are OK, but not that friend” would be helpful.

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