I made the a similar point in that if you look for hate, you can end up finding it even when it isn’t there.
But this argument is weird:
Quite often trans people feel they have to showcase their sexuality, instead of just chilling and being cool with it like everyone else.
That type of “often” is an illusion, since you can’t know how large the group of people that don’t make themselves obvious is.
And plenty of straight cis people engage in the exact same behaviour, broadcasting their sexual identity. It’s not something everyone wants to do, but it’s absolutely something everyone gets to do.