I felt like the left one is true because my ex who didnt felt like she did understand basic things behaved like a boyfriend is only for joy and beauty and not for talking and fixinf problems.
I just wanted to help a person who was highly motivated to do sports and healthy diet as thats literally my life. I would accept her when she didnt fake this mindset but she literally put herself into this making me think that I am allowed to talk about such topics.
She was fat btw. Didnt deserve me after lying a lot, especially about emotions. But she was heavily into “I want a prince as a boyfriend who does everything for me”. Got a new girl that is direct and cant lie and similar to me with health. Loving it.