I’m not sure what conservatives you talk to but moderate right has trans people, enby, etc. then you go further and you have men where suits, women wear dresses. And further you get men work while women take care of the home
When you go left of centre you get men have a Y and women don’t. Further you go the less it becomes identifiable, like you can have men without penises (by accident or surgery) and behaviours don’t matter (no matter how gem/masc someone is it doesn’t change anything because the stress the right put on it as part of self isn’t there)