Yeah, it’s often unsuccessful. I think the more common success is getting someone to do something in reaction, like…
“You never do xyz”
“I always do xyz.” And now does it more for the other person to notice or to prove a point.
Also people bringing in ad populum, preying on social insecurities, I’d say is quite common too. “People think this of you” stuff by people close enough to them to be a valid source.
Anyway, if you want to see bad examples of gaslighting attempts—and a myriad of other budget grade colloquialisms and common fallacies—you’re in the right place 👍