LemmysMum , 8 months ago (edited 8 months ago)

I’d perhaps liken it more to jumping in the water to save someone who’s drowning.

Thank you, that’s an anology I can work with.

No matter how rational a person is, emotion and subconscious reactions can override all of that.

I wish that was the case. I’m diagnosed as high functioning autistic presenting, 100% autism free, but my natural capacity for logic obliterated my emotional development. I can and do functionally parse all my emotional thought through logic. This is my weakness and my strength.

I’m not unaware that my approaches are often mistaken for dismissal or ignorance of people’s feelings, because they are, but they’re also the tools that emotional people need to temper their emotions.

I don’t lack empathy, I lack the tools to express it, work in progress.

These people are at the bottom of the well and I don’t have a rope, but that’s not going to stop me jumping in to try save them, even if I do drown every time until I get one. I just hope I can teach some of them to climb without the rope even though they feel like they need it.

I can’t help, so let me help you help yourself.