I mean, welcome to being queer. My sister basically has to live like that or otherwise she gets arrested or possibly murdered. The terrorist more or less do dictate her life.
Like I understand the frustration of being defederated, especially over an accusation as heavy as this. But I can't blame the bahaj team either for trying to be extra careful of making sure their community doesn't become a target for anyone trying to demonize them. I believe you when you say the content is legal, but it's not going to make a difference when someone like libsoftiktok screen cap adorableporn from the blajah instance and try to twist it into making them to be pedophiles. Also unless the OP makes it clear, it's not like the pictures themselves can vouche for their age.