And it’s also a good choice because it’s a standard protocol that everyone agrees on.
Not sure how true this is in practice. See eg: hachyderm.io/ And there’s of course BlueSky and ATProto that may alter that truth drastically (we’ll see)
Otherwise, I hear you. Thing is I’m aiming for something in the middle. If the platforms are all FOSS and commit to easy movement/migration features (which the fediverse sucks at to be fair) as well as good quality aggregators (which the fediverse also sucks at), then maybe your concerns aren’t a fatal possibility?
Also, and I do apoligise for making this a tad personal … it seems you’re on an instance that’s mostly for you or small group of friends (which is awesome! How’s it going?) … which is a level of enjoyment of what the fediverse offers beyond most people and even beyond what many capable of doing so would want to do for their social media. Meeting things in the middle is also about bringing better social media to more people, which could naturally deprive the technically capable of their abilities to be flexible with their needs (though in a way BlueSky’s promise is kinda to do both, if it succeeds).