cm0002 , 4 months ago

Maybe stop trying to attach a number to it, whether or not to have kids is going to be a very personal thing. Instead of “should someone have kids at 21,18,27,30” or whatever

People should be asking themselves the following questions:

1. Do you want kids?
2. Is your answer to 1 being pressured by friends, family, this Lemmy community or something else?
3. Do you feel you are mentally prepared for a child?
4. Are you financially prepared and stable to have a child? (This one can vary wildly, some people are stable with houses at 18, and some are never financially stable)
5. Are you prepared to handle your child alone if your support network disappears?

Some people are going to be able check all the boxes at 18/19 some aren’t going to be able to until 21 or 30 or maybe even never.

Everyone is going to have to decide for themselves and stop the whole “you shouldn’t have kids at X! but not past Y!” Nonsense.

The sole exception is if you’re under 18, and that’s mostly because you need to finish high school at a bare minimum without distractions otherwise question 4 is going to be a long hard road. Even then the exception has an exception, if you have a well off support network (like wealthy parents)

Like the article posted by the other commenter, you can be mature and ready and wildly varying ages, 25 is a pop culture myth