Much more confusion but also much less child abuse considering there are more filters for abuse-causing factors to have to go through.
I know a lot of victims of such calamity. “Oh don’t worry I’ll take care of it” says a single parent or pair of parents before going full good-for-nothing on them.
One can say what they want about sovereignty over their kin, but people are responsible for collateral damages too. As it stands, I wouldn’t dare become a mom.