Thanks. I appreciate knowing first hand from a guy who didn’t make the first move AND still got to stay with her for a long time; all other stories of girls making the first move I’ve heard either don’t work or end in very short term relationships.
I think I’m not being demonstrative enough, and he probably thinks I’m not interested. There is enough reason for that. But it could also be that he’s not wanting to commit to anything so he’s not asking me anything. I dread this second option. I’m rambling already. What I’m trying to say, in response to your account of not getting the flirts, is that there was some flirting on both sides but also plenty of mixed signals.