I dunno man, my gut says everybody secretly hates me, I'm an imposter at my job, the world isn't worth saving and having kids is a fallacy because they'll just grow up in the resource wars, among other very negative things, I've learned to trust my gut maybe half the time
This hit me like a truck. I lost my father at the beginning of the month due to some tragedy that occurred.
We weren’t on speaking terms (a decision I made), but I’d always planned to one day see if I could turn things around, which will never happen now. Never in a million years would I ever have expected it to come down to this.
University isn’t intended to get A grades, university it’s for you to make connections with other people. A grades are good but a good business partner can save you life.
Also regarding university figure out your reasons for studying whatever it is you’re going to study before going into massive debt for it. Too many people my age went to university a bit aimlessly because going to university after high school is what was supposed to happen. Then they spend the next decade or two kicking themselves about their debt and how they were naive about what they studied.
Now days you can get your college courses paid for by your employer if you have a good one. A “foot in the door” full time job might get you a free Masters or better depending on who you work for and their benefits. Many companies will reimburse your college degree while you work for them. Be picky about who you work for.
My partner played lots of outdoor sport in his youth so he has some skin damage but from his mid 20s when I met him I encouraged proper sun safe behaviours and to moisturise. We live in Australia for Christ sake, this sun is not fucking around.
He’s got mates of all ages but some of the blokes in their late 20s seem to think looking after their skin is a feminine trait and they play outdoor sports. When he’s been out with these guys, people think he’s the youngest despite being over 10 years their senior.
It’s so silly. Put some sunblock on and moisturize. It’s not that hard.
If you want kids, don’t put it off for too long. I waited till my late 30s because I was never ready. Here’s the thing you will never feel completely ready. As long as your life is basically stable (job, housing, and no serious issues) you will be okay.
Kids are hard but super rewarding. If you have them young then you’ll get to see them as adults in your 40s. By the time my kids are adults I’ll be pushing 60 and hoping that I live long enough to meet a grandchild.
People have successfully (shades of grey here I know) been having kids for a long time. You’ll never feel “ready” but rest assured you’ll figure it out.
37, close enough. Invest invest invest. Start a 401K with Acorns or something, I don’t care. Just start putting money away for your retirement yesterday.
I took the aftermarket stereo out of my car in my mid 20s so I can hear bass well still but I often read people’s lips because that mid range hearing is not close to how it used to be if there are any ambient noises at all.
ITT 40 yesr olds tell you to put 10% of your non-existent savings on retirement funds. Good sdvice tbh but they failed to account for landlords and shit
Edit: Be genuine and honest with people. Be open. You’ll meet the best people this way and have better relationships. You’ll also discover who you shouldn’t waste time with quicker, and you won’t waste theirs.
It's fairly hard to create one-size-fits-all advice since everyone will be in different parts of their lives in different circumstances.
Less time on the internet and definitely away from the big social media sites does one good. Avoiding the 24/7 news cycle does as well. Instead, read a book for something you want to learn or read fiction for some period of time a day on most days.
Appreciate the fact you can force your pee stream further now. I don’t know when I lost the ability but I do remember when I tried to and nothing happened. It was a shocking reminder I was getting old
Im a hair over 60 and peeing is no longer a voluntary activity. Have spotted my jeans a few times trying to make it to the head before the hose let loose