When unloading the dishwasher’s silverware rack, just take the whole thing out and unceremoniously dump it out onto a towel on the counter. Makes a ruckus but beats taking flatware out one by one while bent over the dishwasher.
Also, pick up all of the same size fork or spoon, then hold them loosely while shaking your hands and they’ll naturally align into their proper nested position. Actually lots of identically shaped things will do this when gently shaken. I used to align nerf darts vertically in a bucket like this as a kid