I had assumed beehaw had already defeded. Since I’ve been using lemmy, there has never not been some discussion about beehaw and their federation/defederation choices and discussing the intricacies of those decisions. For whatever reason, I haven’t really seen anything from or about beehaw since joining this instance so I presumed they defeded. Prior to that, it seemed hit or miss whether or not I’d get the privilege of seeing beehaw.
All that is to say, with the way you’ve handled moderation, if you left the fediverse it would probably just make everyone’s lives simpler. It’s going to be a “shit or get off the pot” from me, dawg.