I allow myself to feel the rage. Every bit of it, for a count of three, then I have to stop. Because now it’s time to take action. And proper action requires a calm response. I used to try to breathe and relax but that usually just left me fuming for an hour. Instead I just get unfathomably angry for 2 seconds then move on. I don’t know how healthy it is but it works for me. Sort of the emotional equivalent of yelling out an expletive.