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theautisticcoach , 7 months ago (edited 6 months ago) to actuallyautistic

The #ActuallyAutistic (along with some physical stuff that we face) feeling of not knowing what it feels to not have debilitating neck, jaw, and shoulder tension

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades struggle with eating too fast and taking in too much air?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

This week’s parsha is in so many ways about what it is for #ActuallyAutistic humans to unmask & learn about themselves.

Lekh Lekha is about going into yourself on a journey like no other.

For me, reading it reminds me of those understanding that being autistic isn’t a curse. It’s an entirely new paradigm.

#Torah @mazeldon @actuallyautistic @torah

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

People often ask me to define & explain “Unmasking” as there are lots of contradictory definitions & conceptions of it and it can be confusing for those getting started on their path.

Don’t overthink it.

Unmasking is nothing more, and nothing less, than mindfulness for #ActuallyAutistic humans.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Have my #ActuallyAutistic comrades ever had a meltdown or become seriously dysregulated from a dish being served in a way totally different than what you expected?

If so, you’re not alone.

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Good morning #ActuallyAutistic comrades!

What is your FAVORITE thing to do on the weekend?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do #ActuallyAutistic folks have a deeper and more solid connection to the Yetzer haTov?

@actuallyautistic

@mazeldon

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades get dysregulated by their own hair?

What do you do?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Love yourselves #ActuallyAutistic comrades

Appreciate what you give to yourself, to others, to the world.

Because often, you may be the only one.

And that’s OK too. You’re awesome.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Being #ActuallyAutistic isn’t easy.

For many of us, life means constantly navigating meltdowns, shutdowns, and Autistic Burnout.

Do you know your triggers? How to manage them?

@actuallyautistic

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-education-course-autism-advocacy-seminar

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades ever find themselves overcome with sudden dread, sadness, or any other “negative” emotion and have NO CLUE where it came from?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades find that they sleep better when avoiding triggers in the last few hours before bed?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Have you read my travel & food blog for #ActuallyAutistic humans?

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autistic-travel-autistic-food-blog

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago (edited 6 months ago) to actuallyautistic

Loneliness is responsible for early death.

#ActuallyAutistic humans are more isolated than allistics and suffer more loneliness.

This fact is rarely discussed when we are talking about our oppression.

Being together in autistic space is an antidote. It can save your life.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Good morning #ActuallyAutistic comrades

How are you practicing self-care this Sunday?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades think of themselves —— as a doer, a thinker, or a feeler?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Homelessness & being autistic are not spoken about nearly enough in the #ActuallyAutistic community.

Many of our comrades here are homeless. Autistic humans are at LEAST 12x more likely to be homeless than the general population.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Homelessness & being autistic are not spoken about nearly enough in the #ActuallyAutistic community.

Many of our comrades here are homeless. Autistic humans are at LEAST 12x more likely to be autistic than the general population.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

What role does nutrition play in the life of my #ActuallyAutistic comrades?

Do you monitor it and how it affects your day to day?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

As #ActuallyAutistic humans there are few things harder to understand and navigate than meltdowns, shutdowns, and most of all, Autistic Burnout.

My seminar on November 16 will explore these and offer practical solutions for self-care and management.

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-education-course-autism-advocacy-seminar

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Looking for an #ActuallyAutistic friendly place to eat in Bordeaux?

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autistic-travel-autistic-food-blog/dmter-your-cozy-sanctuary-for-a-autistic-friendly-dining-experience-in-bordeaux

@actuallyautistic @travel

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago (edited 6 months ago) to actuallyautistic

Where are my #ActuallyAutistic hot sauce lovers?

What are some of your favorites?

Share below :)

My favorite ones out there come from the brilliant team at Swet in Belgium

@intergalacticmegallama are my #ActuallyAutistic hot sauce lovers?

What are some of your favorites?

Share below :)

My favorite ones out there come from the brilliant team at Swet in Belgium

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

One isn’t radical or revolutionary when entrenching themselves into groupthink.

That’s a form of autistic camouflaging/masking. Denying yourself or simply mimicking others in order to be accepted and/or stay safe.

Unmasking and being true to YOU is radical & revolutionary.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

AuDHD humans get less support than needed. This is mainly due to our being socialized from an earlier age and grossly being misdiagnosed and taken care of our entire lives.

Our experience is different.

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-autism-adhd-life-coaching-group

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd @adhd

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

I've been working on a definition for Autistic Burnout for the past couple of years.

To date, there are a number of definitions and understandings of this most dangerous phenomenon.

To me, Autistic Burnout is a profound and enduring state of exhaustion paired with a partial to total loss of particular abilities resulting from the chronic and relentless denial of our fundamental autistic needs by society and those around us and an overabundance of demands and stimuli without sufficient recovery time.

It is characterized by several interconnected factors, including a continual sense of emotional and sensory overwhelm, a persistent dysregulation of our nervous system, and a profound alienation stemming from both camouflaging, not being heard or understood, and at times, encountering disbelief or even hostile responses to one's autistic experiences.

We can continue to break this down into a bunch of various nuances and we should. There are levels (some say 4, some 5, some 6) and I think all can agree that not all burnouts are the same. I think we can also agree that more #ActuallyAutistic humans are in burnout than we may suspect.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do you have an #ActuallyAutistic adult family member, spouse, or partner?

Do you want to better understand & support them thru autistic meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout?

My new seminar will help give you the tools to do so.

@actuallyautistic

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-education-course-autism-advocacy-seminar

theautisticcoach , 7 months ago to actuallyautistic

More #ActuallyAutistic humans live in Autistic Burnout than previously thought.

But it isn't a foregone conclusion that your entire life will be spent in Burnout. Even if it's been decades.

Important to remember that Burnout is caused and sustained by lack of connection to your autistic self and a denial of your autistic needs.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to disabilityjustice

I'm hosting two seminars on how to support your #ActuallyAutistic family members, friends, and colleagues. If you're autistic yourself it will be a big help for you as well and for those who are in your support network.

We will be focusing on meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout over the 3 hour interactive seminar.

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-education-course-autism-advocacy-seminar

@actuallyautistic @disabilityjustice @disability

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

Advocating for yourself as an #ActuallyAutistic human in public isn’t a small feat.

It’s a huge victory and not only helps you, but all autistic people.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

Do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades find body doubling helpful?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades recover and practice self-care about a meltdown?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

Tantrums purposely manipulate people in order to have desires and preferences met. They are 100% intentional.

Meltdowns of #ActuallyAutistic humans are not under our control are the body’s natural reaction to a lack of our needsbeing met. They are 100% non intentional.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

Intentionally baiting an #ActuallyAutistic humans to have a meltdown is a violent hate crime.

The legal system should recognize it as such.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

Autistic Burnout isn’t a joke.

If you feel yourself edging there, STOP. What’s happening? Are you aware?

You need to make a change NOW.

Others here will tell you why…

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

I lead 10+ absolutely free support groups for #ActuallyAutistic adults every month on Zoom. These are VERY different from online groups or discords, as anyone who has attended one can attest to.

I know of few other organizations or people holding these spaces. We need more.

Join one today.

https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discussion-affirmation-circles

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

There are #ActuallyAutistic comrades among the murdered in Gaza and Israel.

May their memories be a blessing and I pray that peace will come soon in Israel-Palestine.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades deal with disappointment when already in an extremely dysregulated state?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades know that a meltdown is coming on?

An emotion? A sensation? Both?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades know that a meltdown is coming on?

An emotion? A sensation? Both?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

There are tens of thousands of #ActuallyAutistic humans living in fear right now in both Gaza and Israel.

Different types of fear, to be sure, but fear nonetheless.

As an autistic advocate and activist I teach people, daily, that triggers that dysregulate us may look "small" to an outsider, but that to us it's a much bigger deal.

It saddens me how much of the discourse around Israel-Palestine has totally rejected that there are autistic people actually living out this nightmare.

It hurts me to see so many people absolutely reject the humanity of the other side based on nothing but one's own preference or virtue signaling.

Our autistic comrades are living in a state of extreme dysregulation at the moment in that part of the world. All of whom wish that they can find a moment of peace.

Let's not forget that and let's not silence the voices of our autistic comrades who are Palestinian and Israeli. The ACTUAL events are traumatic enough for anyone, let alone an autistic person. More pain and dysregulation need not be added by people who use their lives as an activity to talk about.

@actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades measure their level of dysregulation/ regulation?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach , 8 months ago to actuallyautistic

Being #ActuallyAutistic is not a disease or a disorder.

But it doesn’t mean you aren’t disabled either. You are.

But it doesn’t mean you can’t believe in superpowers. You can.

But you CAN believe that life is incredibly hard without help too.

Autism isn’t one thing.

@actuallyautistic