Dont I know it. I was being facetious with the comment because I know what these places are like having moved from specific niche forums, watching reddit expand (avoiding Facebook), and then here. I’m also an early adopter to Tildes but decided to not even attempt in there because of the “tech bro (tech person)” problems you’ve illustrated.
Mander and Slrpnk are good instances and busy enough.
I do find it funny seeing these memes about creating content from someone with 6 posts, there’s been a few of them now.