They/them is gender neutral. People literally use it to avoid offending people by accidentally misgendering.
It’s not like they went out of their way to say he or “they” to try and trigger people. She’s also not here stating her “wish”.
With all the actual assholes out there it’s ignorant as fuck to be so reactionary on someone else’s behalf when the person you’re attacking is likely on the same side as you.
I’m sure there’d be no reaction at all if you called them they. Feel free to watch I guess since I did it.