Thanks friend, you did well by me. Yeah, me too. The @polyamory group seems good as well. (LoL, hey, it worked!!) It's been my observation that more people all the time are looking for relationship options that fit them better than the standard monogamy model. I used to think that poly was just one of those odd things about me that not everyone shares. And I got ok with that. But the percentage of false paternity speaks to the fact that people want to cheat reproductively or otherwise. Cheating sounds way too dangerous to oneself and one's partners, with STIs, and even with hurt feelings. I prefer to talk about things, so everyone knows what's going on, and each can decide how they want to play.