A handle does not imply gender, I’ve been around since early IRC and it’s never been true.
I referred to you as “y’all” when I replied directly. When I replied later I didn’t even look at your name again, or remember who you were. I replied to “shimmering koi”. Is that a fish person? Obviously not.
I fucking hate tankies but I have zero issue with any gender, pronoun, sexuality, race, ethnicity, etc. If I ever had to talk to you again, I’d be fine to refer to you as whatever you want. But I wouldn’t remember you because this is a anonymous social media platform and identify is meaningless.