Yes. They also believe that you’re supposed to teach your children to fear you. I’m convinced they believe that fear is the heart of love. They won’t admit that they think fear is a virtue but they do. Because they don’t understand that fear is a tool. You should have fears, they help you make wise decisions, but they need to be based in reality and regularly reexamined. They have little security and comfort and what they do have is couched in fear or conflict.
Like, it’s such a thing in their lives that if I could have my evil leftist re-education camps, they’d just be teaching cognitive and dialectical behavioral therapies.