Use a wooden toothpick, not a conductive metal screw. Geez!
In terms of WHY? It’s 1/2 dozen of one, 6 or so of another. Yeah, the Apple solution seems more robust, and I have no doubt it is. Apple gets a lot of shit, most of it well deserved, but I also have little doubt that they tested the hell out of their connector to be incredibly robust.
I too think their solution seems better, but if yiu are abusing your device enough to where you are breaking the connector, something is wrong.