Instead of groiping about problems all the time, we should also be thankful for all the great things they invented, like microchips and food abundance.
Not sure why you’re assuming the people smart enough to create these major inventions aren’t also smart enough to understand their generation as a whole helped barrel us towards a climate disaster
The bumps on the stem are likely root initials. They are the earliest stage of development of a tomato’s roots. Most of the time, bumps are not harmful to tomato plants and are considered normal. Root initials emerge on a tomato stem as a result of stress – most often when there’s a limit or blockage in the stem.
I didn’t show it in the picture but I plant on a hill so excess water runs off. It’s also been dry the past few weeks. Another thing I’ve noticed is the tips of the leaves are turning black before dying. Is it possible that this is from last month where we had more rain?
I’m saying it’s not a gender specific issue, but I guess you’d rather play a victim. If you want experience from a men’s perspective, I have zero issue with emotional support when I’m talking to girls I can trust.
I’m saying the complete opposite of “be a man” that support is out there for men. Are you even attempting to read comments in good faith, or are you reading some completely different text that isn’t there?
So you disagree with the premise that men who reach out are told by society to be a man instead, and want to bring up women's problems instead of acknowledging the problem because you have 'girls you can trust'. To top it off you respond to someone pointing out your whataboutism by accusing someone of 'playing the victim'.
That is what I am responding to, you dismissing the issue while claiming that are aren't and doing the exact thing being discussed in your responses.
Alright I think this convo is done since you are clearly taking this in bad faith after I clarified multiple times that is nothing close to what I said. Find a strawman somewhere else to argue against.
I think that you are both wrong and right. Societal treatment of mental health issues is indeed quite poor regardless of gender. However, it is important to realize that there ARE differences that relate directly to one’s presenting gender.
Just as women are not taken seriously by health professionals, men are frequently treated as less-than by western culture at-large, if we show anything but chauvinistic bravado. This lack of care has had a profound impact on both young and old men who have any mental illness, leading to isolation, and becoming vulnerable to radicalization by those actively preying on them and using them as tools of violence or suicide.
It’s a real, gender-specific problem that is well-encapsulated in the proverb “A child not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”
I think you’re being a little disingenuous. The two conversations are not only both important, but they’re both closely related to each other. It’s impossible to talk about the mental well being of half the population without the other half coming up, since a lot of the problems and their solutions are the same.
It is very possible to focus on half the population being told to 'man up' and the gender specific meaning that phrase has since it does not apply to the other half. Just like we can focus on women being told to smile more without needing to drag men's vaguely related experiences into it.
No insurance. I’ve been off my meds for about 8 months now, and I’m pretty sure I’m going to kill myself. Would love to get help, but I live in the south in the US. So if u say anything, they just put me in holding for 48 hours, and I have to lie the entire time to get out.
I just need meds and someone to talk to. I don’t feel like I’m asking a whole lot.
I’m assuming you’re exaggerating because you’re frustrated by the tough situation, but no they definitely don’t hold you for saying something like that. It’s unironically a luxury to get locked up. I’ve definitely been in a deep hole and have been where you are, and in a red state it’s extra bad. Still battling with it, but the first step is finding a job with any sort of insurance and going to see a general doctor for meds. No, they won’t lock you up, and they don’t want to lock you up until you’re in physical danger to yourself or others.
I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I’ve removed your comment and the rest of this chain to avoid derailing and because we are not really equipped for those sorts of conversations. Mental health resources on the fediverse are still in the early stages but there is !mentalhealth that you may consider reaching out to.
Please don’t. You are a worthwhile human being. You may be able to find resources through a national or international organization, if they are not available locally.
You indeed aren’t asking a lot but the basics that any human is entitled to.
I think it is getting better. I have a “Boys Get Sad Too” hoodie (recommend them wholeheartedly) and so far I have gotten only positive comments, even from people where you might not have expected it.
As I get older it only gets worse. in my 20s I could talk to people about stuff. Now that I'm almost 40, nobody wants anything to do with me the second I open up about any sort of issue going on in my life.
Recently my mother has been dealing with dementia and it's been very hard on me and my sister since my mother is becoming this abusive. Anytime I mention this, even casually to people i used to think of friends, people look at me like I'm an asshole.
As a trans woman who grew up being taught boys don’t cry, it’s taken me the better part of 6 years to learn how to connect with my emotions healthily. I’m so sorry that society treats y’all like this. 💜
I basically had suppressed my emotions my whole life. Since puberty I could count on one hand with fingers to spare the number of times I legit cried before transition and it was usually something like death of a pet or family member.
Some of thst was from running on the wrong hormones, but plenty of cis men are able feel emotional on T. A lot was being scared of showing I had emotion.
I’ve faired better as I’m not 2 years into transition and already feel like a different person.
My theory is that because our brains are “wired” to be women, T causes our emotions to be more out of whack. Anecdotally, I’ve met a couple of trans men who felt more attuned to their emotions after starting T.
But yeah, I know what you mean about feeling scared. I’m really glad your transition is going well. Keep on shining your light!
The fact that being stoic, emotionless or even cold is seen as a trait of masculinity is incredibly frustrating. I feel men should be encouraged to be passionate and expressive with their emotions. Anger shouldn't be the only one we encourage as a society. Have you ever seen a man glow up about his lego collection, or cry at a beautiful scene in a movie they love? More of that please.
Also, men are just as deserving of support networks as anyone else. Though we all experience life differently, we are all human in the end.
The fact that people took Stoicism, a philosophy that’s basically cognitive behavioral therapy for emotional awareness, and twisted it to mean “stiff upper lip” or “repress everything lest you seem weak” is depressing as hell.
It’s one of the reasons I’ve taken a liking to Diogenes’ Cynicism, seeing past the “social norms” and dumb social organization ideas humans come up with.
I also prefer the Cynics. Diogenes is metal as fuck, but my favourite part of Cynicism is that in my opinion, it contains the only true love story in Greek philosophy, Crates and Hipparchia who influenced Zeno, the founder of Stoicism. I’m a sucker for a good love story.
This is so true. I think for a lot of us this advice (or often command) was most frequently heard in these exact words during adolescence. That said this sentiment can at times feel very present.
In my experience it’s gotten better amongst men. Men telling each other to “man up” has largely died, and they are much better at supporting each other. A lot have gotten much better at recognizing when to ask for help too.
However, I think there are a lot of men in relationships under pressure to always be the rock, the protector and provider. They’re not allowed to have a problem or a weakness. I mean it’s a great way to flush out awful candidate partners. Show a little vulnerability and see how disinterested they get, but it gets tiresome.
I mean it’s a great way to flush out awful candidate partners
I’d say the opposite. It’s an obvious red flag that someone doesn’t open up about anything.
Show a little vulnerability and see how disinterested they get
Not my experience, but something not too different.
In every relationship, someone has to be the safe harbor for the other to withstand the occasional emotional crisis. This role can and should be taken in turns so that each one gets each other’s back. But when your insecurity/vulnerability matches with the other person, it takes a freaking HUGE amount of emotional intelligence and energy to be the person that tanks the crisis this one time and open up about this later, when the other person is ready to take turns.
What I observe in practice is that people (man and women) only learn how to deal with this situation in two extreme ways: 1) spiral into the storm along the partner - which is a fuckup because the other person is not ready for this; 2) suck it up forever and ever - which builds up resentment long-term.
There is a middle path. It takes time to acquire it, it takes even more time to teach it to a partner, but it’s one of the main ingredients of constructive conflict resolution.
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