Better to be alone and free to think and explore than to be tethered to someone that holds you back from exploring life. Sex is a fucked up drug addiction without an opt out for most of us. I’ve made a lot of effed up decisions, but not marrying any of my 3 long terms was not one of them.
I don’t know about y’all, but I changed a whole lot every 5 years since 20. I feel more settled in my late 30’s Getting disabled at 29 shakes my perspective away from any kind of norm. I can’t imagine those changes meshing with anyone else and surviving this long.
I don’t necessarily disagree, and everyone is different, but you should consider that it’s not just you that changes. You change WITH your partner. You grow TOGETHER. I am absolutely different than I was 10 years ago, and so is she, but that doesn’t mean that we’re no longer compatible. Our growth contributed to each other’s growth.
I do think people should be maybe… less attached? You should regularly evaluate your relationship to see if it’s working. Shared interests aren’t even always necessary (as long as they at least show interest in what you like and vice versa). But that is very hard and many people would rather not be alone.
I don’t picture too many mates that can handle religious extremist conservative misogynist to atheist leftist open minded best intentions diversity ally. I could be wrong. Heck, in that span I’ve gained, dropped, and maintained more weight than anyone I’ve ever dated, going from ~250 to 350 to 187 and racing bicycles. I doubt I would have spent 3-4 hours a day on a bike while working 8-10 hours and racing on the weekend if I had married someone in my early 20’s. I’d probably still be in bad health. I’m not all that bright right now, but I was a whole lot dumber in the past and having someone around that reinforced my biases was certainly a factor in my growth and development. It is hard to say how things would be different. It gets super lonely at times, but my situation is not standard there.
I personally think that shared interests are far less important than shared values (as in equality, for example), and while it’s fun to have a partner who has shared interests I don’t necessarily think it’s a prerequisite. If you enjoy spending time with them and they’re a good person, that’s all that matters if you ask me.
Thank you. This comment resonates a lot with me, as despite it having been over a year I’m still struggling with coming to terms with having had to break up a 5 year-long relationship for my own good (it’s not that long in the grand scheme of things). The way I would describe it is that she was molding me into the person that I was expecting to become when the relationship started, which was totally different from the person I ended up evolving into. I am glad I did it, but I still struggle with the pain I caused her during the process.
I had back surgery last year at 29, and while I didn’t end up disabled, I’m seeing my life change in small ways because of it. It’s weird feeling so young but having to limit certain activities because you could become paraplegic if anything goes wrong.
I didn’t have anything to add to your comment, I’m just glad you posted it!
Key is to slice it with a very sharp and thin knife. Think almond sliver thickness. The amount of allicin (and wouldn’t it be awesome if your daughter’s name was Allison lol) released will be minor, thus not killing off the yeast except right against the garlic.
You can also rinse the slivers and let them dry, which helps as well.
You can even do minced if you rinse and dry, but then you don’t get the garlic flavor as much, what with more of the good stuff being released and lost.
But, yeah, most people push slivers into the dough right before baking, at least that I’ve ever seen. When it’s used in the dough, it’s usually roasted garlic rather than fresh. Again, that’s based on what I’ve run across.
When I do it I’m going to use a long cold ferment. A few days long.
If you want to use it fresh you can peel and blanch it, or leave it in its skin and and put it in a hot dry pan like you do for some Mexican salsas. It will change the flavor though, you won’t have that garlic bite.
You can also try slicing it, since that breaks fewer cells.
Well as far as baking failures go, that was probably still a pretty tasty one
But yeah, best way to load butter on to a bread thing is to put the garlic in a bunch of melted butter. It's focaccia, it was gonna be unhealthy anyway
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