Women must stop having babies. Normalize vasectomy.
We need women. We need women to lead the way. We need women to take charge of their energy, that bleeds out of them in unpaid work. We need women to direct that heartfelt, deeply rooted, wholesome unconditional care and love towards the survival of humankind. And we need them to lead.
In a normal woman's life. All her energy drains into a work that is never done, a work that can never be finished, a work,that's increasingly becoming a form of torture as the system is snatching your children right from your arms, destroying their future, confronting them with the violence of this world.
We don't need more children. We cannot transfer this weight onto another generations shoulders.
We need to focus all our energy onto this task of finding a way forward from a near hopeless situation. It is no longer in the interest of humankind, that women would bear children. Instead they must bear goddesses that save us. They mus become those warrioresses that they are in everyday life, for their children. They must become that for life itself, Life needs us.
I had a talk with my kid. As a neurodivergent single mum of a neurodivergent child I have seen life from the underside. Raising a child in this marginalized situation: It's a life for a life. We need one woman to keep one such child alive and whole. It sucks up all of her energy and shortens her lifespan.It crushes her dreams. We all know that.
I talked to my female friends.
Not one of them that did not experience trauma. Systemic patriarchal violence. It begins with medical violence during childbirth (or lack of any medical assistance at all) and it does not end. Not ever.
And we bottle this up because we cannot burden our children with it. We need to be loving mums. My friends are all over 50. the hormones have changed. The pink glasses came off. We are finally old enough to admit the exhaustion and able to take some space to evaluate. And we have this to say:
If you are a young woman: Don't get pregnant. Be pregnant with the future. We could do a lot , if we focused all our unconditional love onto having this flawed species survive. Into stopping the intrinsic violence we are submersed in. And we'd finally be able to realize our self- love. Because we would be able to pace ourselves. We'd have some measure of agency over our own lifeblood and energy.
It's a life for a life. And the cost is rising with the mounting pressure of poverty and fascism.
It's a life for a life. It's not romantic. It's hard. And increasingly irresponsible. We need that energy. It's the true lifeblood of change. The most precious thing you will ever give.
Men -women relationships are not romantic. They only appear to be. The statistics say otherwise. Your partner does not have to raise a finger in order to be exploiting you. He needs an incredible amount of determination, undying love and an advanced consciousness in order to not be doing that. Very few of them pass that test. On a lifetime basis. Even after they stopped being in love with you. And now want to make more babies with someone else.
Let's face it: The responsibility is with you. In most cases, that checks out. In the long term. The statistics give testimony to that. Most mothers acquire a chronic illness over the time of their motherhood.
So I've read all of these books. I've had my experience, I've talked to my friends. This is my conclusion.
I love motherhood. It's so glorious. It could save us all.
We need to honor ourselves more than we do. We need to realize that we can actually do great things. That we are here to save all children and ourselves in the process.
Don't get pregnant.
And if you don't want to listen to an older woman: found that fucking community first. It needs at lest 10 supportive people for a mother to have half a chance at a decent life. The only sustainable way to raise a child is within a circle of support. And no one has that nowadays. We are being atomized. And the grind of raising a child isolates you even further.
Don't fall into that trap.
Mother that woman that you can become, instead.
I think this can be a really positive, life affirming choice. ( and it's no coincidence the christofascists don't want you to have that agency)
Change my mind. Just throwing this out there. It's been boiling in me for a long time. I had to reckon with all my own scars. My body, my health my hormones, my feelings towards my kid, who is a wonderful person and whom I love dearly. I am in full agreement with him over this. He sees this world. he will not father any children.
The default pattern for a woman and mum is codependency. Even if you're free of that in individually-psychological terms ( no woman is). The way the system is set up pressures you into it. On the male side, it's the opposite pattern. Narcissism. And you have to actively resist that systemic suction. It's a battle.
That love is unconditional. It will tear you apart, trying to lay the world at your child's feet. A world that does not exist. Because the world is burning.
Stop having children. Give birth to the world instead. And be realistic. The chance that you will have it in you, to do both at the same time are nil right now.
I'm sorry. My hair is grey. I can confidently say that.
I believe that we need to come together as human beings and expand this love. So that we can all experience it. And not inside the confines of patriarchal, binary families. But as communities. It's the only way we will be healing fascism. And this is what we need to pour ourselves into.
And if we weren't brainwashed by barbie we'd have realized this a long time ago. Our human community is sick. It must be nursed back to health. We can't do this individually. We must break up the patriarchal family compartments. The core family is core hell. No woman my age will contest that. Individual romance notwithstanding. The concept of it brought us were we are. We must take a different route now. Give birth to the future. @actuallyautistic
At a time when people increasingly feel disempowered and without outlook, the "mill girls of Lowell" offer an inspiring story of human triumph in face of withering conditions.